Why are there fewer and fewer trusted people?

Question:

Why is it that people in the church have no one to tell? Are there no trusting relationships with pastors?

I am very sorry that this situation is in your church. The Lord has greatly blessed our family with a pastor who is like a parent to us. I think that’s how every church member should relate to their pastor. As for the confession, it is not only the pastors who must be trusted in a church. Many Christians believe that only the pastors should run to the right and to the left and be available to everyone 24 hours a day. It’s not like that! Each member must be a trustworthy person and able to be a mentor to another. Many Christians today feel comfortable with Sunday only. Why? Because …

Christians do not want to be mentors.

It is very difficult to listen to the pain of others. It takes a lot of patience. It means getting involved in the lives of others. It’s more comfortable not doing it, but it’s not good. A man of God dedicates his life to others, he has the mind of Christ.

“do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others. Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus, who, as He already existed in the form of God, did not consider equality with God something to be grasped, but emptied Himself by taking the form of a bond-servant and being born in the likeness of men. And being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself by becoming obedient to the point of death: death on a cross. For this reason also God highly exalted Him, and bestowed on Him the name which is above every name,  so that at the name of Jesus every knee will bow, of those who are in heaven and on earth and under the earth,  and that every tongue will confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father. So then, my beloved, just as you have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling;” (Philippians 2:4-12 NASB)

Paul speaks to the Christians in Philippi, to the whole church, not just to a leader there; especially, since at the end he uses the phrase, “Beloved ones, as you have always been obedient.” So the whole church was active.

There are fewer and fewer people to trust.

Unfortunately, many Christians do not confess, because there are too few who can keep their confession secret. We need to be trustworthy.

“The things which you have heard from me in the presence of many witnesses, entrust these to faithful people who will be able to teach others also.” (2 Timothy 2:2 NASB)

There are few who are trustworthy, and few are steadfast in the Word, able to counsel others in the Word. Because…

Learn from the example of other mentors.

There are so many examples of mentors in the Scriptures; we just need to study to learn from them. I urge you to study the Bible Study on How to Be a God-Mentored Mentor, written by a special mentor who has had an impact on the life of our family, Mia Oglice.

Mordecai, who was raising Esther, orphaned her and had a special influence on her life. Esther, who later becomes queen, follows Mordecai’s instructions just as accurately.

“Esther did not reveal her people or her kindred, because Mordecai had instructed her that she was not to reveal them. And every day Mordecai walked back and forth in front of the courtyard of the harem to learn how Esther was and what was happening to her.” (Esther 2:10-11, 20 NASB)

Obviously, she never asked herself whether or not to listen to him, whether to confess to him or not. Why? Because Mordecai was a trusted man who understood the purpose of his existence.

May God help us to be trustworthy people, to whom many will come and reveal themselves, and we will be able to help them.

Translated by Aliona Soltan