I have accidentally found this site and I have read several plausible articles, but they have also left me some concerns. I have sinned much because I have had sexual intercourse without being married. What can I do from now on, especially if that guy is a Muslim and is the only person that I feel, actually, that belongs to my soul? Do I have any chance to hope that I will ever have a marriage harmonized by God and have healthy children? Do I have to forget this guy?
Your life is already changing for the better since you admit and are aware that you have sinned and consequences come over. Here’s what I advise you now to do:
1. Get out of the bondage of sin
Stop any relationship with that boy because, as you know, if you meet, the bad lust will dominate you again and you will not be able to not sin again. It is wise to stay far away from sin.
2. Repent wholeheartedly and enter the New Covenant
Ask forgiveness from God for the sins you have committed, for the sexual immorality and all other sins committed in life. Then, enter a covenant with the Lord Jesus in prayer, ask Him to give you His perfect forgiveness, to be born again, to give you the Holy Spirit and make you a new creation. If you do this with all your heart, in faith, the Holy Spirit will come into your heart and give you power to live a holy life from now on.
3. Begin to study the Bible
I suppose you have a Bible at home. Begin carefully to read the New Testament and then read the Old Testament entirely. Then, I recommend you to get the Bible study materials according to the inductive method and in particular, to begin studying the course “God, are you there?”, which is a profound study of the Gospel of John and contains basic teachings that a new Christian has to learn in order to live a victorious life over sin and have full accomplishment in the relationship with God.
4. Go to church
The Bible says that the Church is the Body of Christ and every Christian is one of the members that make it up. Therefore, each of us, Christians, are very dependent on each other and we can live a victorious Christian life only when we serve God and each other. Find a church where the Word of God is preached and studied profoundly and where the priests live according to what they preach.
5. Invite your present boyfriend to church
No longer accept to meet the man you have written about, except in the church building at the worship services or Bible lessons. He needs salvation as much as you do and he is loved by God equally. Christ died on the cross for him too. But, do not accept to go elsewhere, lest your nature will control you again and you will find yourself being enslaved by the sins of your past.
6. Look at the future through the divine perspective
God says that when someone enters a covenant with the Lord Jesus Christ, all old things pass and he or she become new creatures.
Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come. (II Corinthians 5:17)(NASB)
From the time when one enters the covenant with Christ, God opens a new white leaf of a book that is absolutely clean, that is the new life of the one who is born again. He also says in the Bible that He has good thoughts about His children and wants to give them a future and a hope.
‘For I know the plans that I have for you,’ declares the LORD, ‘plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope.’ (Jeremiah 29:11)(NASB)
Although they were told firstly to the people of Israel, these words are very actual for all those who turn to God now.
7. Accept to get married only to a Christian boy
This is the clear commandment of God for any Christian to marry “only in the Lord”, i.e. only to a Christian girl and every Christian girl to get married only to a Christian boy. Accept to get married only to a true Christian man who loves God with all his heart. And you do not have to worry about the emotional moods which you experience now, that you are so emotionally attached to that man. You are to experience the true love in the relationship with God and then, at the right time, in the marriage with a man of God. In the Holy Scripture it is written:
The hope of the righteous is gladness, but the expectation of the wicked perishes. (Proverbs 10:28)(NASB)
In conclusion, I want to let you God’s promise for His people and that I pray you will take personally:
Trust in the LORD and do good; dwell in the land and cultivate faithfulness. Delight yourself in the LORD; and He will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the LORD, trust also in Him, and He will do it. He will bring forth your righteousness as the light and your judgment as the noonday. (Psalm 37:3-6)(NASB)
Translated by Felicia Rotaru