Is it good to marry when you have to give back big financial debt?

Question:

I have a girlfriend and I love her a lot. I am currently abroad. I want to marry her. What should I do, because I have big financial debt and can not get rid of them? What do you advise me to do in this case?

There is no commandment in the Bible where God would prohibit marriage to the one who has big debt. However, I advise you, if possible, to do your utmost to work and firstly give back the debt and only then get married and here’s why:

1. The debt you have puts pressure on you I do not think you want to put your wife under the same pressure. But on the other hand, I suppose that your girlfriend has already shared this pressure in some measure.
2. The pressure of your debt will prevent you to focus on building up the relationship with your wife because you will always be concerned how to give back your debt.
3. When you marry and create a family, this implies some necessary expenses for the wedding, honeymoon (which is very important to lay the foundation of a beautiful relationship) and rent a room and other useful things at the outset. It is important to have a job, a source of income, through which you can meet these needs and can support your wife and children that will be born to you.

I assume that your situation has many specific moments that were not presented in the message that you sent me, but I hope that the advice I have given you are relevant. At least, if you can not wait until you return all debt, do your utmost to find a work of place where you have a salary and then to get married so you can meet the needs of the family and turn the debt little by little.

Translated by Felicia Rotaru