Related to marriage in the church: divorce is not accepted according the Bible, God’s word. When the wife notices the change of her husband’s behavior, she finds that he has lied to her from the beginning, having his thoughts directed to another woman. As proof she found a bag of pictures of her in his office which discloses that he made a false marriage just to win a bet with his colleagues. It is not normal for a wife to divorce from such a husband? Or does she have to stay with a man who bet on her? He thinks of another and has violent outbursts! I’m waiting for your reply. Thank you in advance.
I find it hard to believe that someone can get married to win a bet. I know someone else who got married to take advantage of the husband or wife’s material status, but to win a bet, it seems unbelievable to me. Then, if he was such careless man to marry for a bet, I think he would have left you long ago for this reason, and would have divorced you.
The fact that you found a bag of photos in his office with another woman’s picture may be a problem, and if he has a bag of pictures, it means he had a strong and long relationship, but it did not last. The fact is that now he is married to you, and you are a family.
Yes, I advise you to stay in marriage and make every effort to earn your husband’s heart and earn him for God. Do not tell him anything about that woman’s photos or about the bet. Talk to him using kind words and respect him. Read carefully the following passage in the Bible:
In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior. Your adornment must not be merely external—braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. For in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands; just as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, and you have become her children if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear. (1 Peter 3:1-6)(NASB)
I strongly recommend you to get the biblical inductive course “Marriage without regrets”
Then hurry up to follow everything in the book and I believe that you will be able to experience a happy marriage with your husband. If it seems too hard for you to start the manual that I have recommended to you to, start with the manual “Building a marriage that lasts”.
May God help you and give you wisdom on how to build your house, that is, the family, as it is written:
The wise woman builds her house but the foolish tears it down with her own hands. (Proverbs 14:1)(NASB)
Translated by Didina Cravcenco