How can you keep the love for your wife, for it will always appear a woman more beautiful than your wife? I know this is a temptation, but I wonder how it can be kept?
1. Do not be conformed to this world
Another time, this question didn’t even appear either to the unbeliever, but now things have changed. Through films, books, magazines, Internet, etc., the devil wants to convince us that love is a feeling out of any control of our will, that you can not command to your heart and that true love comes and goes when it pleases. In this way, the devil wants to deceive the whole world that true love is that which fulfills all your needs and your passions and if it no longer copes, it no longer exists. What a great deceit: extremal and cheeky selfishness has come to be called love and be presented as this. Do not be deceived and do not build your concepts about the world from sources that are contrary to the biblical truth. God says very clearly:
And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect. (Romans 12:2)(NASB)
2. Realize the love of God
In the Old Testament, God often compared His relationship with the people of Israel with the one of a man and his wife. After his beloved wife, the people of Israel, turned away from Him and sinned seriously, committing adultery with foreign idols, God has left it for a while, but then said through the prophet Jeremiah:
The LORD appeared to him from afar, saying, ”I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore I have drawn you with lovingkindness. Again I will build you and you will be rebuilt, O virgin of Israel! Again you will take up your tambourines, and go forth to the dances of the merrymakers. (Jeremiah 31:3-4)(NASB)
If God so behaved with His wife who was unfaithful, the more any man who realizes the love of God will love his wife with an everlasting love and will keep his lovingkindness to her for all his life, so as to reflect the character and glory of God, for we were created for this.
3. Reflect the character of the Lord Jesus
God instituted marriage to be a picture of the heavenly family. The Epistle to the Ephesians relates that in a marriage the husband reflects the Lord Jesus and his wife reflects the church. In this context God commands all men to love their wives and to be ready to sacrifice for them, because only in this way we are able to reflect the Lord Jesus through our behavior. And it is written so:
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, because we are members of His body. FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND SHALL BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH. (Ephesians 5:25-31)(NASB)
4. Choose to stay in love
Every man must understand that it is responsible to keep his love and passions directed towards his wife for all his life, as the Holy Scriptures says:
Drink water from your own cistern and fresh water from your own well. Should your springs be dispersed abroad, streams of water in the streets? Let them be yours alone and not for strangers with you. Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth. As a loving hind and a graceful doe, let her breasts satisfy you at all times; be exhilarated always with her love. (Proverbs 5:15-19)(NASB)
5. Do not be tempted by other women
As soon as the Word of God tells about the duty of a man to be exhilarated always with the love of his wife, It says:
For why should you, my son, be exhilarated with an adulteress and embrace the bosom of a foreigner? For the ways of a man are before the eyes of the LORD, and He watches all his paths. His own iniquities will capture the wicked, and he will be held with the cords of his sin. He will die for lack of instruction, and in the greatness of his folly he will go astray. (Proverbs 5:20-23)(NASB)
Be a wise man and do not allow your heart admire a foreigner, so that you may not somehow lust her in your heart. Learn to be a restrictive man and to behave wisely in all circumstances. Watch over your heart.
I assume that women also read this article and I want to tell them that the way they appreciate and answer to the love of their husband, it has an important role in the continuous renewal of feelings, that it is necessary in every marriage.
Translated by Felicia Rotaru