Every man has the greatest pleasure and joy in his life when he builds and maintains relations with others. If you are a pupil or a student, the you spend the most of your time with your colleagues. If you have good relations with them, you will always have joy and you will succeed with your studies. But, if you will not maintain a good relation with them, your life will become boring and also you may have a lot of troubles. In this article I want to advise you how to build up relations with your class or groupmates. If you assimilate these truths, you will be able to build relations with those from your family, with your future husband or your future wife, with the collegues you work with and with all people. Here are the advise I want to give to you.
Take interest in others
Usually, when someone who is imature spiritually comes in a new group tries to tell more about him/her to people and to impress with his/her personality. This is not a good thing. Firstly, try to find out about others. Even from the first day, try to find out as much as possible from each of your colleagues, about their families, about their brothers and sisters, about the problems they face with, etc. If you are interested in people, this will make them to take interest in you, but, more than this, they will see in you a person who cares truly about them. And then, the Lord Jesus said:
In everything, therefore, treat people the same way you want them to treat you, for this is the Law and the Prophets. (the Gospel of Matthew 7:12)(NASB)
Wouldn’t you like that when you come into a group, people took interest in you and you didn’t go unobserved? You don’t want everyone to indulge their personality and to not eben notice you. So, if you don’t want this, do to people the way you want them to do to you.
Feel with others
When you see somebody with a sad face, try to find what their problems are and how you can help them. Feel with those who are in troubles. To feel means to help them with what you can. When Apostle Paul was in prison in Rome, Christians from Philippi found out about his circumstances and sufferings and they participated to support him. Epaphroditus, a man from that church offered himself to take the collection and to go to Rome. Possibly he knew that it was going to be a troublesome trip, because later Paul said that Epaphroditus had been sick and close to death in that trip. But in that way he felt with others. Here is what Apostle Paul tells about this to the Christians from Philippi:
But I rejoiced in the Lord greatly, that now at last you have revived your concern for me; indeed, you were concerned before, but you lacked opportunity. Not that I speak from want, for I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances I am. I know how to get along with humble means, and I also know how to live in prosperity; in any and every circumstance I have learned the secret of being filled and going hungry, both of having abundance and suffering need. I can do all things through Him who strengthens me. Nevertheless, you have done well to share with me in my affliction. You yourselves also know, Philippians, that at the first preaching of the gospel, after I left Macedonia, no church shared with me in the matter of giving and receiving but you alone; for even in Thessalonica you sent a gift more than once for my needs. (Epistle of Paul to Philippians 4:10–16)(NASB)
Who from your class has troubles at the moment? Who is burdened? How can you help? Maybe your colleague wears a cloth with the torn sleeve and all other girls from your class laugh at her and make fun of your colleague. Maybe you are one of the persons who makes fun of her? Invite your colleague with the torn sleevs today to have a tea or a coffee with her and try to find out what her circumstances are. If you can, maybe you give her one of your clothes, that is better. Do you imagine how much joy will this cloth bring to her, because this will be the expression of your love and this will warm her up the most. Do this and don’t act as the most of those who don’t care act, because they don’t have mercy and are not interested in others.
Invite to your house
This is always a compliment and an expression of appreciation and attention when you invite somebody in. You don’t have to be ashamed if what you have or what you don’t have. A gracious heart and your attention is the most important thing that your colleagues will receive, when you invite them to your house. But, at the same time, be attentive not to compromise your reputation or theirs. It is not adequate for you, as a girl, to invite boys in, and inversely. Be attentive so that your good may not compromise your reputation and of the persons’ you want to do good to. God says in the Scriptures:
Do not neglect to show hospitality to strangers, for by this some have entertained angels without knowing it. (Epistle to Hebrews 13:2)(NASB)
Who of your collegues have ever come to your house? Talk to your parents and see whom can you can invite today or this week. I advise you to start from the person who has the saddest face or the one you know she/he has many sufferings and needs at the moment.
Do not judge unrightly
All people have good and bad qualities. No one is perfect. Don’t speak badly to people and don’t say them about their bad qualities if you can not change any of them or if you yourself face the same bad qualities. The Lord Jesus said:
Do not judge so that you will not be judged. For in the way you judge, you will be judged; and by your standard of measure, it will be measured to you. Why do you look at the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ and behold, the log is in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye. (the Gospel of Matthew 7:1–5)(NASB)
What person from your class are you unsatisfied with? What are the defects of that person, that are in your life, too? What can you do to help this person to overcome these defects?
Don’t gossip and don’t bear a false report
When you say bad things about someone, that are not true, this is a gossip. Don’t ever do this thing, because it is a great evil. Another, not less evil, is when you hear bad things about someone from others and you continue to spread them further on. God says:
You shall not bear a false report. (Exodus 23:1)(NASB)
Tell me please, how are you able to build relations with someone who talks bad things or bears false report about you. I know someone, who likes to boast that he is a great friend of mine, but there came true witness to me that said he talks unrightly and bears a false report about me. How can I have a beautiful trustworthy relation with such a man? If anyhow, you are a person that gossips and bears a false report, how will one be able to maintain a nice relation with you? Don’t ever do this.
Don’t use coarse jestings
A coarse jesting is when all laugh for amusement, but at least one person feels bad. Don’t use such kind of jestings, because people, to whom these jestings are adressed to, will not like to be around you and will avoid you. What kind of nice relations can you build with these people? Don’t do this, because the Word of God says so:
But immorality or any impurity or greed must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints; and there must be no filthiness and silly talk, or coarse jesting, which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks. For this you know with certainty, that no immoral or impure person or covetous man, who is an idolater, has an inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God. (Epistle to Ephesians 5:3–5)(NASB)
If you take my advice into account you will manage to build and maintain nice relations not only with your colleagues, but also with your family that you have or that God will give you.
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Translated by Djugostran Felicia