How to behave with alcohol addict relatives to lead them to salvation? It’s a question that bothers me because I do not know how to behave with my parents. I tried to be good with them, to show understanding, to take care of their daily needs. And what do I get? They continue the same, even worse, and if I try to say something about the situation they face, about the need to change something, immediately they come up with accusations and charges. I tried not to get in touch with them for several months, there has been a little change for the better, which lasted until the first opportunity to drink and all started again. I’m at a stage when I really do not know what to do nor do I know if I want to do something for them.
I understand that the situation is particularly difficult and unbearable, but this does not invalidate the fifth commandment of the Decalogue (The 10 Commandments) that says:
Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be prolonged in the land which the LORD your God gives you. (Exodus 20:12)(NASB)
To honor, but it doesn’t mean to tolerate the sin of drunkenness they have addicted themselves to. I think it is better to buy food, clothes and other things they need, but do not give them money they can use to buy alcohol to addict to drunkenness.
You must continue to talk about their situation, but do not focus so much on their sinful condition, but rather on the freedom they can have through faith in the Lord Jesus.
Do not stop to show affection and when they are open, tell them a lot about the Lord Jesus Christ and how faith in Him has changed the lives of other people and yours.
The children who have alcohol addict parents experience shame for them, but this is a trial that you must endure, as we learn in the Scripture where God says:
<sup class=”xref” title=”See cross-reference A” value=”‘(A)’>Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing. (James 1:2-4)(NASB)
Do not despair. Even this situation, God uses to build a beautiful character. Receive all things as from His hand.
Translated by Felicia Djugostran