I have a question that will sound silly or strange, but I really need to know the answer. I do not have a boyfriend and I think that it is nothing wrong with it. I prefer to wait rather than to rush after the first boy. But, you know, I’ve got tired to be continuously asked by those who surround me if I have a lover, as if they have only my concern. I do not know how to make my mother understand that every grass has its shadow because I think that she worries that I may remain a spinster, for all girls of her friends already have boyfriends. Others are surprised when they learn that I do not have a lover, as if I were 100 years, when I am only 18 years old. Sometimes I feel I want to tell them something … How more should I suffer it? Now my priority is my studies. I do not say that I wouldn’t like to have a fiance, but if there is not one, I do not make a tragedy. Sometimes I even begin to think that I have problems with love. Help me, please, and advise me how to answer to those that so much care about my fate. Thank you in advance.
As I take it, the most important thing is that you think well and analyze correctly things regarding marriage and love. Now it is wise to learn things that can help you build a beautiful family later and God will send you the groom at the determined time, as He promised in His Word and as He has shown in the lives of thousands of people. God said:
The hope of the righteous is gladness, but the expectation of the wicked perishes – (Proverbs 10:28)(NASB)
You can not stop people asking you because you can not change people. But, when you can not change a thing, you must change your attitude toward him. So, you should never get offended by their questions. You can tell them that they will be invited or that they will be announced when you marry, and when they ask you about love, tell them about Jesus’ love for you and for all people and tell them that anyone who has not experienced that love, will not know what real love is in marriage.
Thus, use this question of people in order to proclaim the Gospel.
Translated by Felicia Rotaru