I am in a serious relationship with a girl for some time. Meanwhile, I entered the covenant with Jesus Christ (I have been saved). My church recommends me to look for another relationship, with a Christian girl. My girlfriend is also interested in the holy things, but her parents categorically prohibit her any relationship with those who have repented. In this case, how shall I do God’s will? To listen to the advice of my heart and to wait until my girlfriend repents, or to listen to the recommendation of the church?
Salvation is more important than marriage
When you say “in a relationship” I realize that you love this girl and would like to get married with her. Salvation of your souls is the highest priority and I am glad you have chosen to repent and follow the Lord Jesus with all your heart, so that you may inherit with Him along with all the saints.
In the same way, the biggest priority for your girlfriend is to save her soul from eternal hell and this can be done, as you already know it, only through repentance with the whole heart and entering the same covenant with the Lord Jesus Christ.Tell her how important it is to return to the Lord Jesus and follow Him with all dedication, regardless of the obstacles that her parents put in her way. Remind her the words the Lord Jesus told those who would choose to enter the covenant with Him:
Brother will betray brother to death, and a father his child; and children will rise up against parents and cause them to be put to death. You will be hated by all because of My name, but it is the one who has endured to the end who will be saved. (Matthew 10:21-22)(NASB)
And you should also explain to your girlfriend that the prohibition of her parents to have relations with those who have repented is actually the prohibition to follow the Lord Jesus Christ. And the Holy Scripture teaches us to be “obedient to our parents in the Lord”, i.e. in the boundaries of the Word of God. And no one can listen to their parents if they forbid them to follow Christ.
Do not be troubled with marriage now
It is not good to think now of the marriage with this girl, as long as she is not saved and the more you should not focus on a relationship with another girl, or more properly speaking, with no girl.In the I Epistle to Corinthians, Apostle Paul says:
Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be released. Are you released from a wife? Do not seek a wife. (1 Corinthians 7:27)(NASB)
God will take care of your need to marry and He will do it in the most beautiful way. Now, seek to share the gospel of salvation with your former girlfriend, with your parents, friends, brothers, sisters and with all your people. May God help you so.
Translated by Felicia Rotaru