What to do when your boyfriend left you because you do not want to have sexual relations before marriage?

Question:

What to do to make my boyfriend come back to me after he left me on the ground that I do not want to have sexual relations before marriage?

Understand the reality

Realize that he did not not care for you, he does not love you and had no intentions to marry you, but just to have fun with you and then to leave you. If he truly loved you, he would have been afraid to ask you to do something that is against God and he would have made every effort to get married soon. Remember the words of Scripture that say:

Those who seek my life lay snares for me; and those who seek to injure me have threatened destruction, and they devise treachery all day long. (Psalm 38:12)(NASB)

Thank God

Pray and thank God always that He guarded you against the bad snare set to you by that man whom you thought was your friend. He was not interested in you as person, but only to have fun with your body. You can now thank God with words of hymns of David:

For You have delivered my soul from death, indeed my feet from stumbling, so that I may walk before God in the light of the living. (Psalm 56:13)(NASB)

Beware of every evil

Discontinue any relationship with this man now and forget about him, as a man who wanted evil to you and wanted to use you. As you were strong and you have not yielded to his pressures of having sexual relations before marriage, so now be strong and break any relationship. If he comes back to you, tell him that you see in him only a man who set you traps and wants evil to you, because if he truly loved you he would have asked you in marriage.

Do not be crushed by emotion

I realize that since you call him your boyfriend, your heart is bound to him and now it will be painful to sever any relationship with him. Be strong and break this relationship and once again thank God that you did not yield and then to be abandoned. Do you imagine how much pain you would have had then? Or, let’s say, he would have married you … If he is a man so enslaved by sexual pleasures, be sure he would soon start to commit adultery with other women and this would bring you great pain in the heart. If he left you because you refused to have sexual relations before marriage, I suppose that he has already found another victim whom he has deceived and is used now, and she is naive and believes that he would marry her.

Translated by Felicia Rotaru