We have found six principles in the last two articles on this subject of choosing your life partner according to the Word of God. We will see the last three principles in this last article on this subject.
7. God’s will for you is not to marry against your own will and under any kind of pressure.
When the servant of Abraham heard the affirmative answer of Laban and Bethuel…
…he bowed himself to the ground before the LORD. The servant brought out articles of silver and articles of gold, and garments, and gave them to Rebekah; he also gave precious things to her brother and to her mother. Then he and the men who were with him ate and drank and spent the night. When they arose in the morning, he said, “Send me away to my master.” But her brother and her mother said, “Let the girl stay with us a few days, say ten; afterward she may go.” He said to them, “Do not delay me, since the LORD has prospered my way. Send me away that I may go to my master.” And they said, “We will call the girl and consult her wishes.” Then they called Rebekah and said to her, “Will you go with this man?” And she said, “I will go.” Thus they sent away their sister Rebekah and her nurse with Abraham’s servant and his men. They blessed Rebekah and said to her, ”May you, our sister, become thousands of ten thousands, and may your descendants possess the gate of those who hate them.” Then Rebekah arose with her maids, and they mounted the camels and followed the man. So the servant took Rebekah and departed. (Genesis 24:52–61)(NASB)
This marriage was built on faith. Neither the girl’s parents nor the girl knew her future husband. But, as we have previously seen, the girl’s parents, her brother admitted that this marriage was planned by God and they accepted God’s will. Nevertheless they asked Rebekah if she wanted to marry, and her word had to be the last one. No one can be happy, when he/she was forced by someone or by some circumstances to enter into a marriage. Neither the spouse will ever be happy if he/she forced the partner to enter into marriage. Or maybe some parents, brothers, or friends, etc. try to “convince” a guy or a girl say “Yes”. Is that “Yes” real? Accept to marry only when this “Yes” springs from your heart and such a “Yes” shall spring from the heart of the person you want to marry. This is God’s will. He respects our freedom. Because He could make us accept the saving sacrifice of the Lord Jesus Christ one day, but He doesn’t do this because the result will not be a relation, but God wants to have a beautiful relations with us, founded on love, on a heart that listens to Him because it loves Him. God wants people to enter into the covenant of marriage in this way.
8. God’s will for you is to know and not to exceed the limit of marriage concern
When we meet Rebekah for the first time in the Bible, she didn’t seem concerned with looking for a husband, or hopeless that she doesn’t get marry. On the contrary, she was concerned about the responsibilities she had in her household, and, at the same time, with a beautiful character that was ready to help everyone. She acted so with the foreigner who asked for water, not knowing that he was Abraham’s servant. Here is what the Bible says further on:
Now Isaac had come from going to Beer-lahai-roi; for he was living in the Negev. Isaac went out to meditate in the field toward evening; and he lifted up his eyes and looked, and behold, camels were coming. Rebekah lifted up her eyes, and when she saw Isaac she dismounted from the camel. She said to the servant, “Who is that man walking in the field to meet us?” And the servant said, “He is my master.” Then she took her veil and covered herself. The servant told Isaac all the things that he had done. Then Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah’s tent, and he took Rebekah, and she became his wife, and he loved her; thus Isaac was comforted after his mother’s death. (Genesis 24:62–67)(NASB)
Isaac had a beautiful habit, very necessary for all people. He went out to meditate in the field toward the evening, or, in other words, to analyze his activities, relations, to plan some things, to pray for his needs. There is no doubt that he also meditated about his marriage. Some people exaggeratedly worry about this, so that they are not capable to do anything else, as they are paralyzed by this concern. The Bible says in Genesis 25:20 that “Isaac was forty years old when he took Rebekah to be his wife”. He was not married until forty years and he knew to govern his passions in a beautiful way. Not only Isaac but also Rebekah placed this need before God and it was fulfilled by Him in a miraculous and fully way.
9. God’s will for you is to marry a person you will love your whole life
The last verse of this chapter ends with beautiful words that say: “Then Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah’s tent, and he took Rebekah, and she became his wife, and he loved her; thus Isaac was comforted after his mother’s death”. Their love was not a feeling that goes beyond man’s will and choice. She was his wife and he loved her. She was a comfort and a joy for him. God wants your marriage and life be the same.
Dear reader! We live times when true values are attacked and ruined daily. Happiness can not be realized by people who go away from God’s word. Look attentively around you. How many happy couples do you see? The husband and the wife are both unhappy, no matter if they are simple workers, students, less or more educated. God wants to make you happy in your marriage, as Isaac and Rebekah were. Study His Word and live according to it, to be happy and to give someone happiness.
Translated by Felicia Djugostran