Good evening! I would like to ask you a question that is not quite clear for me, since I read the article on kissing on your site. When I was in the 7th grade, as it is fashionable nowadays, I kissed a boy just to be like the girls in my entourage. I had no interest for him, though he liked me, and now I regret enormously what I have done. I think now how I could do that, since I wanted, and I still want to not touch any boy until God gives me the right one. I mention that I do not hasten to have someone, to kiss someone, but I wait until God wants it. He knows better what I need … I do not consider myself “clean”, because I let a boy touch me before the one that will be mine. Is it a sin? God help us!
I answered this question in the article “Is kissing considered adultery?” and I also approached the subject in the article “Is it allowed to kiss your future bride?” My wife also wrote about kissing in the article “Are kisses are allowed during the engagement period?“.
The very fact that you now no longer consider yourself clean is an evidence that your personal conscience condemns you on this. And personal conscience expresses God’s law that has already been put by Him in every man. Some have sought to shut up this law of personal conscience to the point that they no longer hear its voice.
I congratulate you because you were wise and stopped this bad beginning on time and for how wisely you think now about your future marriage.
You must also understand that not just because of that kiss, but because of many others reasons you are not clean before God, just like all other people. The Bible says that all have sinned and the wages of sin is death but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus. Hurry to enter the New Covenant by faith in Jesus Christ as this is the only way you will receive full forgiveness of all sins and you will be given the Holy Spirit from God, who is the earnest of eternal life and with the Holy Spirit, you will receive power to live a holy and clean life. So help you God.
Translated by Felicia Rotaru