My girlfriend and I have 2 kids and we stay together. We have agreed to refrain from sexual relations because were ready to make it right with God. I know we’ve already been judge but does he punish you if you’re trying to do his will? Please help.
It is bad that you chose to cohabitate all these years, but it is a great thing that you have come to know the Lord and you want to obey His will by abstaining from sexual relations until you can legitimize your relationship before the Lord through the act of Holy Matrimony. May the Lord help you officiate the marriage ceremony as quickly as possible so that your marriage can be registered in the church and in the government records. Only then will you be able to enjoy the gift of the sexual relationship, given to us by God (for those who are married).
The prophet Isaiah begins with a sad description of the apostasy that had spread throughout Israel. God rebukes them harshly and then He calls them to repentance so that they can mend their ways saying the following:
16 “Wash yourselves, make yourselves clean ; Remove the evil of your deeds from My sight . Cease to do evil,
17 Learn to do good ; Seek justice, Reprove the ruthless, Defend the orphan, Plead for the widow.
18 “Come now, and let us reason together,” Says the LORD, “Though your sins are as scarlet, They will be as white as snow ; Though they are red like crimson, They will be like wool.
19 “If you consent and obey, You will eat the best of the land ;
20 “But if you refuse and rebel, You will be devoured by the sword.” Truly, the mouth of the LORD has spoken. (Isaiah 1:16-20)
Do you see it? God says that their sins are like scarlet, that is, almost impossible to wash away yet if they will return to God with genuine repentance then He will wash away their sins and they will be as white as snow. God goes on to say that if they will obey Him, then they will eat the best of the land. The same is true for you as a couple. If you have chosen to follow the Lord by repenting of your sins then you have been completely forgiven. You are now under the New Covenant through Jesus Christ. If you are committed to being obedient to God from now on then you need to know that God wants to bless your marriage and will bless you with “the best of the land” in your marriage. Hold on tightly to Him.
Translation by: Erik Brewer